Just Like Me
Themes: Alike and Different, I’m Me and I’m Special, Friends, Bodies
Objectives: Recognize human similarities and differences. Develop a positive attitude
toward human similarities and differences.
Materials: A mirror and a variety of pictures of people that represent different cultures,
gender, hair color, eye color
Description: Display the pictures on a wall or table. Ask the children one at a time to
pick out all of the pictures of people who look like them. If a child seems unsure,
encourage him to look in the mirror. Describe the child’s physical characteristics. Then
ask, “Do you see any pictures of people with skin color and hair like yours?” Pick out all
of the pictures and show them to the child. Talk about the common features between
the people in the pictures and show them to the child. Talk about the common features
between the people in the pictures and the child.
Variations: 1. Have the children pick out pictures of people who are not like them.
2. Ask the children to find a partner. Encourage the children to look at their
partner and find pictures who look like their partner.
Children may be able to find many matches or struggle to find one. They may be
looking for an exact match. Children may be good at finding one for their classmate.
Asking the children what color hair do you have? What color eyes do you have? And,
what color skin do you have? Can guide them to finding a good match.
Here is a display of pictures both boys and girls from multiple ethnic backgrounds. There is also a mirror for self inspection.
This is my daughter Elena looking at herself in the mirror.
I then asked her to find a picture of someone who looked the most like her.
I chose this activity because it starts with the basics. The children may look at
themselves in a mirror to get a detailed idea of what they look like. Knowing what they
look like and who they are supports their self concept and self identity. Having this
concept will help them have confidence in accepting people who are different from them
which is another goal to this activity. Acknowledging that their classmates, who are their
friends, have different physical features prevents stereotyping and prejudice behavior.
The appropriate age for Just Like Me is from three to four years old.
Preschoolers “get even better at noticing differences among people. They can name,
identify, and match people according to their physical characteristics. Children are very
aware of their skin color. Four year olds may ask, Where do people get their color?
Why are her eyes like that? Am I yellow? It is important that young children receive
honest, simple answers to their questions because they believe there is an explanation
for everything. If they don’t know the answer or aren’t helped to think about it, they are
likely to make up their own distorted answer. Children can be helped to understand that
many of their features are permanent by associating their physical identity with their
biological parents.” (R&W, p. 17)
This is an appropriate theme because by age four, “children notice skin color, the
shape of eyes, hair color, hair texture, body shape, the way people talk, and how people
move their bodies. There is nothing wrong with developing a greater awareness of
differences, it is a very positive and necessary skill” (R&W, p. 25). Preschoolers like to
“classify things by color, shape, alike, and not alike. Gradually, they learn to distinguish
both people and things by their more subtle characteristics and differences” (R&W, p.
26).
The activity, Just Like Me, addresses three goals of anti-bias curriculum. The
first is to develop a positive, knowledgeable, and confident self-identity within a cultural context.
It is to recognize, appreciate, and respect the uniqueness, beauty, value and
contribution of each child. The second is to demonstrate comfortable, empathetic interaction with
diversity among people. This activity provides children with positive experiences exploring similarities
and differences. Both of these goals are seen with the multicultural approach which provides children
“with the message that it is all right to be different and differences are good” (R&W, p. 134). The third
goal is think critically about bias. This activity helps foster positive self-esteem and a positive
self-concept in children. The human relations approach emphasizes the development of a positive
self-concept and skills in forming and maintaining friendships. Multicultural concepts young
children can understand from this activity include: everyone is worthy, everyone is important,
people are similar, some people are different, and some physical attributes stay the same and
some change.
“with the message that it is all right to be different and differences are good” (R&W, p. 134). The third
goal is think critically about bias. This activity helps foster positive self-esteem and a positive
self-concept in children. The human relations approach emphasizes the development of a positive
self-concept and skills in forming and maintaining friendships. Multicultural concepts young
children can understand from this activity include: everyone is worthy, everyone is important,
people are similar, some people are different, and some physical attributes stay the same and
some change.
The book Children Just Like Me: A Unique Celebration of Children Around the
World by Anabel Kindersley and Barnabas Kindersley is a great book to go along with
this activity. Published to coincide with UNICEF's fiftieth anniversary, a celebration of
children around the world is based upon interviews with young people from all walks of
life and reveals their diverse cultural backgrounds and universal similarities.
Another great book is Just Like Me by Barbara J. Neasi. This book focuses on how a child sees
himself relative to his contemporaries, community, and family, by focusing on
development of self, including self awareness and relating to others.
An additional activity that would coincide with this activity is to have the class make self-portraits of themselves. Keep the mirrors out and add paint, markers, crayons, construction paper in multiple skin tones, and yarn in many colors. They can make a portrait of how they see themselves.
In conclusion, I believe the anti-bias activity Just Like Me, is a great way to incorporate the anti-bias goals to a group of young children. It is personal to them and relatable to others. There are many discussions to be had and lessons to teach. There are wonderful books with topics that branch off from the activity. I had my daughter do the activity and she truly enjoyed looking at her face, searching through the cut out faces to find one that looked like her, and showing me her pick. We also found a face for each member in our family. This is a definite must do for a class!
An additional activity that would coincide with this activity is to have the class make self-portraits of themselves. Keep the mirrors out and add paint, markers, crayons, construction paper in multiple skin tones, and yarn in many colors. They can make a portrait of how they see themselves.
In conclusion, I believe the anti-bias activity Just Like Me, is a great way to incorporate the anti-bias goals to a group of young children. It is personal to them and relatable to others. There are many discussions to be had and lessons to teach. There are wonderful books with topics that branch off from the activity. I had my daughter do the activity and she truly enjoyed looking at her face, searching through the cut out faces to find one that looked like her, and showing me her pick. We also found a face for each member in our family. This is a definite must do for a class!